Many thanks to Dawn for sharing bravely. Dawn has found her way back to LOVE IN LIFE. I’ve banned her from dieting, counting calories or using a scale! She has regained her freedom and control over food. She has QUIT emotional eating or food craving! She is FREE to CHOOSE so she gets to eat whatever her body wants with lots of LOVE, self-compassion, mindful eating and intuitive eating.
Our secret number 1 to successful weight management: LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. Be KIND to yourself as you would with your family and friends. Our secret number 2: FOCUS on your HEALTH instead of the weight. Be honest and discuss what’s really important in life! We’ve always achieved great results with NO SCALE. Dawn has done it without any prescription medication or over the counter medicine or supplement! Our secret number 3 is NO DIETING. I’ve been a health professional for more than 20 years and yet to learn anyone who has achieved excellent health by following a “diet” alone. Our secret number 4: I do LOVE to involve my patients’ family members or friends to help with their health management. The more support the better! If no one else is supporting you, you have yourself and me so WE ARE ENOUGH! It’s a team effort and I know we can do anything when we set our minds on achieving our dreams!
Dawn’s husband has helped us by hiding the scale so Dawn couldn’t weight herself at all. Even her doctors had joined me and wouldn’t tell her how much she’s “lost” on the scale. As a self-proclaimed “scale addict” who used to weigh herself TWICE every single day, it was extremely difficult to at the beginning, now she’s doesn’t even look at it.
I’ve kept reminding Dawn to be KIND to herself and say NO to self-criticism or social stigma about being “fat, overweight, anything else you or others call you” I’ve offered her a judgement free zone where she can be herself and be honest with me from the start so we could work together to achieve her dream of being slimmer and healthier!
She’s learned to LOVE her body through mindful eating and intuitive eating by listening to her body. The result? A brand new Dawn and we’ve totally pulled out her so-called “sweet tooth”. She’s also setting a good example for her grandchildren on how to be healthy physically and mentally.
Dawn was banned from any of the “no pain no gain” nonsense. I’ve stopped her doing excess exercises which had resulted in injuries in the past along with plenty of self criticism. We exercise to feel better, not to feel worse. Too much is just as bad as too little.
I’ve always thought that healthy weight management is more than just eating less and doing more. It is not that simple as the human body and mind is amazingly complicated so I prefer to help patients with HOLISTIC approaches. This also allows me to help patients to improve their emotional and psychological wellbeing, which is often overlooked when you focus on dieting and/or exercising only.
We know we’ve succeeded when Dawn started to wear some of her old clothes that she’s not worn for years! We know her dress size keeps getting smaller without knowing how many “kilo” she has “lost”. Who needs the number?
I don’t like the word “lose” so I ban all my patients from using it while in my clinics. All patients will tell you that I’m very bossy on banning some words when they are with me! No exception! It doesn’t matter who you are!
The bonus is her blood glucose levels have improved so much that she needs NO additional medicine to treat her diabetes. Her endocrinologist was amazed and was very happy with her progress!
Also it’s important to know that not all fat is created equal. The fat around the tummy is the dangerous fat so our ultimate achievement is to make sure we reduce the tummy fat! The fat around the bum poses no danger. JLo is famous for her beautiful bum! That’s why weighing on a scale doesn’t give us an accurate indication of our progress! So why wasting time?
Our core messages are simple! First message: BE KIND to yourself, as all my patients will tell you, although not all patients agree with me on this. I make no apology in asking everyone ” STOP BEATING yourself up” because it does no good to anyone! Second message: I’ve always asked my patients to “TRUST YOURSELF” as I’ve always told everyone “YOUR BODY is the BEST DOCTOR” every since I was young. Trust me (Viv) if you don’t trust yourself! Things become better when you trust yourself. Lastly, I invite you to join me to see that YOU ARE THE MIRACLE and YOU ARE YOUR OWN BEST DOCTOR!